Comments on: Judgment http://youngbridget.wordpress.com/2009/03/09/judgment/ normal people are kinky too Sun, 15 Nov 2009 19:52:15 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Mija http://youngbridget.wordpress.com/2009/03/09/judgment/#comment-464 Mija Wed, 11 Mar 2009 22:44:27 +0000 http://youngbridget.wordpress.com/?p=271#comment-464 First, as promised, "Right on, sister." Like you, I'm cool with my friends not liking Paul -- not everyone has to like everyone else and P and I are quite different. Besides, Paul sometimes works hard at not being likable. But I haven't been able to get passed times when people have decided he's a bad or dishonest person. They're free to think that, of course, but I can't be close to anyone who feels like that about my partner. To be honest, I don't trust them enough. I think part of the problem is that while you are a spanko and a lot of your friends are too, we're not exactly part of the same scene that you and your master are. That's another dimension of you. Bottoming, at least for me, in the spanking scene is about being looked after, in some ways being served and cared for. But just spending time with you makes it clear that your pleasure comes from serving, from being useful and being seen as doing that well. One of my great cruel amusements is watching you and Paul try and negotiate who gets to do what, while I, the high maintenance bottom, just watch and know someone is going to do it eventually, but it won't be me. Paul had good things to say about his meeting with you and your master. He's hard on people so that good opinion is good enough for me, at least until you can get your partner to a party so I can meet him. First, as promised, “Right on, sister.”

Like you, I’m cool with my friends not liking Paul — not everyone has to like everyone else and P and I are quite different. Besides, Paul sometimes works hard at not being likable. But I haven’t been able to get passed times when people have decided he’s a bad or dishonest person. They’re free to think that, of course, but I can’t be close to anyone who feels like that about my partner. To be honest, I don’t trust them enough.

I think part of the problem is that while you are a spanko and a lot of your friends are too, we’re not exactly part of the same scene that you and your master are. That’s another dimension of you. Bottoming, at least for me, in the spanking scene is about being looked after, in some ways being served and cared for. But just spending time with you makes it clear that your pleasure comes from serving, from being useful and being seen as doing that well. One of my great cruel amusements is watching you and Paul try and negotiate who gets to do what, while I, the high maintenance bottom, just watch and know someone is going to do it eventually, but it won’t be me.

Paul had good things to say about his meeting with you and your master. He’s hard on people so that good opinion is good enough for me, at least until you can get your partner to a party so I can meet him.

]]> By: youngbridget http://youngbridget.wordpress.com/2009/03/09/judgment/#comment-463 youngbridget Wed, 11 Mar 2009 17:42:06 +0000 http://youngbridget.wordpress.com/?p=271#comment-463 Indy, Actually I didn't get a lot fussing and advice this party. Mostly I got spun up about it ahead of time due to the past and events at home that got me thinking about it. It's something I thought about and discussed at the party with friends more than something that was a problem for me actively. If it's been a problem anywhere it's been on our respective blogs. Hence the focus on why I write what I write. As for the hypothetical grad student, almost all my really dear friends are old enough to be my parents. It is a compliment. Indy,
Actually I didn’t get a lot fussing and advice this party. Mostly I got spun up about it ahead of time due to the past and events at home that got me thinking about it.

It’s something I thought about and discussed at the party with friends more than something that was a problem for me actively. If it’s been a problem anywhere it’s been on our respective blogs. Hence the focus on why I write what I write.

As for the hypothetical grad student, almost all my really dear friends are old enough to be my parents. It is a compliment.

]]> By: sparkle http://youngbridget.wordpress.com/2009/03/09/judgment/#comment-462 sparkle Wed, 11 Mar 2009 16:43:37 +0000 http://youngbridget.wordpress.com/?p=271#comment-462 I'm glad you have the awesome job, I missed you at SL (yes, I missed SL too), and I wish we could chat more as we used to. But you're busy, I'm swamped, and I'm hardly on YIM at all anymore. Facebook, on the other hand... Anyway, my only advice is to get plenty of sleep and water. Everything else is better if you are rested and hydrated. And yes, I should practice what I preach. Hugs, sparkle I’m glad you have the awesome job, I missed you at SL (yes, I missed SL too), and I wish we could chat more as we used to. But you’re busy, I’m swamped, and I’m hardly on YIM at all anymore.

Facebook, on the other hand…

Anyway, my only advice is to get plenty of sleep and water. Everything else is better if you are rested and hydrated. And yes, I should practice what I preach.

Hugs,
sparkle

]]> By: Indy http://youngbridget.wordpress.com/2009/03/09/judgment/#comment-461 Indy Wed, 11 Mar 2009 13:53:27 +0000 http://youngbridget.wordpress.com/?p=271#comment-461 I hope SL was great fun, even if you had too many people fussing over you and offering advice. I'm sure there were exceptions, but I suspect most of it was offered by people who genuinely like you, respect you and care about you but just couldn't stop themselves from being motherly (or fatherly). Glad to hear that things are going better for you, even if it's still a painful time. Hugs, Indy p.s. If you happen to point out that you were only three years old when a hypothetical person started grad school (and is therefore old enough to be your mother), you kind of deserve the advice you get! ;-) Just sayin'... I hope SL was great fun, even if you had too many people fussing over you and offering advice. I’m sure there were exceptions, but I suspect most of it was offered by people who genuinely like you, respect you and care about you but just couldn’t stop themselves from being motherly (or fatherly).

Glad to hear that things are going better for you, even if it’s still a painful time.

Hugs,
Indy

p.s. If you happen to point out that you were only three years old when a hypothetical person started grad school (and is therefore old enough to be your mother), you kind of deserve the advice you get! ;-) Just sayin’…

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